The Complete Edging Guide to Cure Premature Ejaculation


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Updated on March 9, 2020


What is Edging

Edging is a form of sexual training that is done by stimulating your arousal to the point just before ejaculation without actually reaching the point of no return with the goal of strengthening your mind-penis connection with the goal of fully controlling when to orgasm and avoid premature ejaculation.

edging orgasm

Edging is a technique of driving yourself and/or partner or others and even all of you together to the verge of an orgasm and then backing off. This might sound cruel but if done enough times, your body will become a magnet palpitating nerve of sensation making your orgasms a lot more intense and fulfilling,

Edging can be equated to holding out pleasure. It might seem hard to hold from letting yourself go at the peak of sexual pleasure while your heart is racing and every part of your body is beaming with a flurry of sensations and you are about to hit the crescendo but it is worth it.

Do not confuse edging with orgasm denial. Orgasm denial is the straight-up denial of everything sexy and in most cases involves a submissive partner and a controlling partner, and might be considered a form of power exchange relationship. Edging on the hand is less demanding and requires much less restraint. Edging is essentially halting sexual stimulation for about 30 seconds when you are just about to come and the simulating yourself again then repeating until you are ready to explode with an orgasm that will make you feel as if you have been doing it wrong all the while.

But why would you want to deny yourself the amazing pleasure that you get from an orgasm? Isn't the more orgasm you get the better and vice versa? Edging is a marathon and not a sprint, it makes you more mindful between the sheets and also keenly aware of both you and your partner or even yourself during those steamy solo sessions.

Edging Benefits

Imagine denying yourself your favorite treat until you finish a particular task.

Picture the satisfaction you will get from that treat when you eventually have it.

That is edging for you!

The pleasure you get from is psychological but it boils down to simple physical reasons as to why it is so terrific.

When you stop an orgasm from happening, the blood flow to the pelvic area is increased making your erection harder, both penile and clitoral.

How to Do Edging

Before we get to edging you need to first understand the four phases of sexual response, that is; excitement, plateau, orgasm, and finally resolution. While phases might defer in duration and intensity for you and your partner, understanding it will help you to effectively time your edging by knowing when to stop or restrain sexual simulation. The following are the four phases of simulation;

1. Excitement

This is the initial phase of arousal and is denoted by a combination of the following general characteristics;

  • Increased muscle tension

  • Hardened and erect nipples

  • Begin of vaginal lubrication

  • Increased blood flow to the genitals making the penis to become erect, and in the case of females, the inner lips and clitoris become swollen

  • Swollen testicles and secretion of a lubricating liquid in men

2. Plateau

If the sexual stimulation continues, you move on to the plateau phase, a phase that continues to the brink of orgasm, and has the following characteristics;

  • Intensified phase one changes.

  • A withdrawn testicle into the scrotum for men.

  • A continued increase in heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing.

  • The vaginal walls turn in to a dark purple as the vaginal walls continue to swell due to increased blood flow.

  • The clitoris is now drawn back under the clitoral hood, to prevent direct stimulation by the penis.

  • The clitoris is very sensitive at this stage and touching it might cause discomfort.

3. Orgasm

This is the height of sexual stimulation and sadly the shortest period in the four phases of sexual response. An orgasm occurs on enough stimulation of areas around the clitoris and the clitoris itself and other sensitive regions such a the G-spot for women. For the men, an orgasm is the equivalent of an ejaculation. At this phase, the neuromuscular tension accumulated from the previous stages is suddenly released in only a few seconds. It might be so intense that it shows on your skin in the form of sex flush on your entire body. The general characteristics of orgasm are;

  • Muscle spasms commonly in the feet

  • At this stage, heart rate, breathing and, blood pressure are at their highest.

  • There is an abrupt and powerful release of sexual tension.

  • Vaginal Muscle contractions

4. Resolution

After the climax, the swollen parts of your body slowly go back to their normal sizes and level of functioning. At this phase, you may feel a general sense of well being, fatigue, and also a feeling of intensified intimacy with your partner.

The duration of this period defers for men and women, while women can attain multiple orgasms and return to the orgasm stage quickly upon further sexual stimulation, men require a refractory period upon ejaculation, in this period the male counterpart is unable to have an orgasm again. The refractory period duration is different for men of different ages, an older man's refractory period lasts longer.

If the sexual stimulation ceases to continue in women, the resolution phase will last for thirty minutes or more after the orgasm, in this period, the clitoris, uterus, vagina return to normal positions and the muscles are relaxed.

Edging Techniques

Now that you know about the sexual stimulation phases and how your body responds to sexual stimulation, we can delve further into effective edging. Edging does not necessarily need a sexual partner you can practice it during your solo sessions also as you explore your body's erogenous zones.

Edging is different for females and males. The common factor is redirecting your focus from sexual pleasure and thoughts so as prolong the duration you take to come. Be patient while practicing edging, it might be a daunting task particularly for men but with these techniques, anyone can do it and get desirable results while at it.

Time For a Switch

Switching it up simply means using a different method away from the usual technique you need to reach an orgasm. Switching it up does not mean that you can't touch your G-spot or clitoris, you actually can but not in the way that you normally do. You could perhaps press or pinch or press your clitoris instead of pinching. In other terms avoid actively doing that what gets you off normally.

Going Solo

The best way to discover your erogenous zones is through self-pleasure Research has shown that the best way to be accustomed to your body is through self sexual exploration. This goes a long way to build your sexual relations and consequently your entire relationship through sexual satisfaction. This is because you know what you want and you are therefore able to direct your partner on pleasuring you,

When edging solo, the best way is the start and stop method. First get yourself in the sexual mood ideally whichever way that suits you, Be it with a toy or using hands, the goal here is to make you comfortable, Gently start touching yourself until your penis is erect or the vagina gets wet. then start your masturbation just how you normally do it. When you feel that you are about to come slow down your hand movements or completely hat the sexual stimulation. Try not to focus on sexual pleasure for about thirty seconds then go back what you were doing that made you almost come. Repeat this process until you are ready to let go. Then let it go, you realize that your orgasm will laster longer and is significantly intensified.

For the adventurous people out there, a vibrator is the best invention since the sliced bread, and with the current technological advancements, nowadays vibrators give biofeedback as it goes in and out your pleasure area, either anal or vaginal and send it directly to your device.

Going at it With a Partner

You could also perform oral sex on your partner who is edging you before he resumes sexually simulating you. with this technique, both of you are still being sexual, but you have delayed your orgasm. Switch to a position that might not be as sensual, and maybe slow down your rhythm to delay the orgasm.

Soft-pedal

Slowing it down is another way to keep your arousal without focusing on the buildup, therefore, delaying your orgasm.

Shift to Vaginal Stimulation

This might be a daring endeavor as many women need their clitoris stimulated and might even prefer it to an actual orgasm. But you could try moving to vaginal stimulation combining it with other erogenous zones stimulations such as anal, stroking your labia or caressing your breasts.

How Long Should Edging Last

The duration and frequency of edging are totally up to you, you could refrain from coming 1-3 times before letting go. Once you feel that your target is met, you may now enjoy your sexual pleasures confidently.

Is Edging Worth the Effort

The answer is yes, edging will significantly improve sex and masturbation, here are some of the benefits;

Confidence: This is particularly for the men, although some women might also have premature orgasms, edging has the potential to give men some form of control over premature ejaculation, relieving them from the shame of coming too early to the party leaving their partner dissatisfied. This builds the relationship and overall quality of sexual being as stated by Stacy Loeb, M.D. a urologist based in the city of New York.

Prolonged intensity: Yes sex is great and all, but what's even better is enjoying your orgasm for a longer period

Synchronized Orgasms: Practicing edging with your partner eventually leads to both of you having simultaneous orgasms, this may be during intercourse be it anal or vaginal and even remote sexual encounters.

Power Play: Giving up power to your partner either male or female, same-sex or heterosexual intercourse is a great way of spicing things up in the bedroom. This is achieved through tease and denial, a form of edging whereby your sexual partner takes charge of your body and vice-versa, making them do exactly what you want them to do. This means that you do not let your partner orgasm until you are ready.

Enjoy Sex for Longer: Edging orgasms gives you control of your partner(s) orgasm timing as well as yours, you can, therefore, enjoy a prolonged sexual encounter

Achieve orgasms easily: This particularly applies to the women, women can reach an orgasm readily after practicing edging.

Misconceptions About Edging

Edging too much can cause ejaculate or semen for men to reverse into your body in whatever way. This is untrue, upon finishing your edging routine an letting go, any ejaculate or semen that the body created is released and in the case that you do not ejaculate, the ejaculate is broken up by your body into different components.

Why Practice Edging?

You should practice edging because it prevents premature ejaculation. This is especially useful when having sex in real life.

It also means that you can last longer in bed.

How long can you last?

Indefinitely.

What this means is that you’re in complete control of when you ejaculate. Whether you want to cum early or hold it out for literally an hour,that choice is up to you.

This leads to better sex sessions with your partner so that you can both satisfy each other, especially if you’ve been letting premature ejaculation ruin your sexual experiences.

Edging promotes penis growth when combined with your penis enlargement regimen

Remember, penis enlargement consists of breaking down the tissues in the penis, so that they can repair and grow back stronger and larger.

But it is a healthy blood flow that delivers nutrients to the penis tissue that is directly responsible for this growth.

So when you practice edging, you're effectively maintaining a strong erection (delivering blood to your penis) for extended periods of time.

When you combine edging with kegels, you're quite literally maxing out the amount of blood flow in your penis.

Compare this to some guys who will do their stretching exercises, but never even have an erection (or try to get one) for days at a time -- not good.

Edging can allow men to develop a multiple-orgasm capability

Tired of squeezing out one and done? Is your partner tired of that as well?

According to the National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) some men always had the ability to deliver multiple orgasms within a 1-2 hour period, while some were able to develop this ability through exercises.

What exercise? None other than edging exercises!

Edging can allow for "dry orgasms" in men

What's a "dry orgasm"? It's simply a guy having an orgasm without the ejaculate coming out.

Again, this is related to the fact that guys will usually release all their ejaculate in the first orgasm, and then there isn't any ejaculate left for the subsequent orgasms in that short period of time.

How to Practice Edging When Masturbating

While we here at PhalloGauge are against the consistent watching of porn, since it cause porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED). The main reason is that it messes up your brain simply because the stimulation from porn is too great.

However, while we allow porn once in a while, it is definitely a great time to practice edging.

A good compromise is to find a "sexy celeb video" on YouTube and masturbate to that because it's not fully explicit.

That way it doesn't screw up your mind by exaggerating expectations when it comes to your mind-penis connection.

So load up your favorite sexy Taylor Swift feet video in your browser and see how long you can last edging!

One definite requirement you should get in the habit of doing when masturbating, if you don’t already do this is to masturbate with a lubricant.

A bottle of water-based lubricant Another bottle of water-based lubricant Fleshlight water-based lubricant

Why? Well if you’re not, in order to stimulate yourself, you literally have to squeeze your penis in order to masturbate. This choking sensation is much too strong in comparison to vaginal, oral, and even anal sex, and dry masturbation has the potential to desensitize your penis so much that you can’t even get off when you have actual sex.

When you use a lubricant when masturbating with your hand, then you will be able to slide your hand along your penis and this simulates the feeling of a vagina much better than choking your penis, and prevents overstimulation.

Instead of using your hand, we will see later in the article of a tool that you can use that is great for edging called the Fleshlight, which gives more stimulation than your hand and is literally designed for edging training.

Try to keep masturbating gently throughout the whole scene such that your just below the point of no-return.

Imagine you have an arousal level. 0% is completely not aroused, and if you hit 100%, then you’re going to ejaculate. The idea when practicing edging with porn is to keep your arousal level consistently at 90%.

Those who are untrained will have their arousal levels jump wildly between 50% and even hit 100% when practicing edging while masturbating to porn. However, the more you train, and the more your mind-penis connection is strengthened, the variation in arousal level will get smaller and smaller, and eventually, you’ll be able to jump between arousal levels at will.

The most trained guys will be able to stay at a consistent arousal level, or at least change the momentum if they feel that their control is slipping.

For example, say you’re at 90% and as time goes on, you’re slowly slipping to 91%, then 92%, then 93%. A well-trained guy will be able to detect that his arousal is getting too high, and then immediately slow-down in order to bring that level back down.

Using the Fleshlight Toy to Practice Edging

One of the most useful tools for edging is the Fleshlight. It’s so effective at solidifying your mind-penis connection that even male porn stars use it to regularly train themselves in preparation for their scenes.

Fleshlight stamina training unit

Is it better than just edging training with just porn and your hand? Yes.

The reason is because the texture of the toy was designed to simulate that of a real vagina. Additionally, the problem with just using your hand is that most guys tend to overstimulate by gripping too tight, especially if they don’t use a lubricant.

In other words, the texture of Fleshlight is designed to intricately stimulate more than a typical vagina, but not more than a squeezing hand with its ribbed inner texture.

Inside of Fleshlight stamina training unit

There are many designs for the Fleshlight each with a different pattern in the sleeve, each delivering a slightly different sensation, but there is one Fleshlight product in particular that was designed for edging and that is the stamina training unit Fleshlight.

While, there is some work involved with cleaning and maintaining the Fleshlight unit, it is definitely worth it in terms of the benefits for edging training. It’s more work to deal with than just masturbating because you’re allowed to ejaculate into the toy, but after you do that, you have to clean it out with water and a special cleaning solution.

Applying Your Edging Training When Actual Having Sex

Having sex is much different than porn. Like we said earlier, porn is much more stimulating than actual sex. However, actual sex is much more complicated. By this we mean, with porn, you can either pause the video or simply stop masturbating.

You can’t simply stop with sex. You "should" meet your partner’s needs as well.

So, in order to maintain arousal during actual sex, you have to really solidify your mind-penis connection.

Premature ejaculation during sex

There are two aspects to controlling this arousal state during sex: Controlling your mind or controlling any physical sensations.

Unfortunately, the controlling mind aspect only comes during edging practice – it’s not recommended to do edging training when actually having real sex.

However, you can, to some extent control some of the physical sensations that you’re feeling, but not all.

For example, the tightness of your partner is a factor that you can’t control. Whether you’re doing vaginal or anal sex, obviously most guys will find anal sex more stimulating due to it being tighter on their penis. Blowjobs stimulation are very dependent on the skill of your partner.

So while you can’t control the tightness physical sensation, you can control the speed at which surfaces are rubbing against your penis.

For vaginal and anal sex, this means simply moving your hips slower and thrusting slower. Don’t be afraid to even pause for a few seconds in between thrusts, to control your arousal levels.

For blowjobs, a little verbal communication can go a long way. This means simply tell her what you want with the intention of keeping your arousal steadily at 90% without going overboard. Also, you can gently control her head with your free hands.

While there are these small things you can actually do during sex, you should definitely prepare and train your mind-penis connection outside of the bedroom, ahead of time.

The Final Verdict

Edging is a sure way of improving your sexual life, whether you decide on going at it alone, or with your partner. This effective tool is sure to spice things up in the bedroom. What's more, edging orgasms is beneficial to both men and women regardless of age and sexual preference.

If you decide to go at it with your partner, have a chat with them first, talk about why you are interested in it and develop a strategy for approaching it as well as having attainable expectations as you embark on this process.

I highly recommend masturbation first to study your body, this is the surest way to discover your sexual need to set goals for your orgasm edging. remember this is a marathon and not a sprint.

For the men, this might not be an easy fete, but it will be worth your while and make your partner happy will at it. It will help you be " fashionably late"

Enjoy.

In Conclusion, Edging Will Lead to a Much More Satisfying Sex Life

Ultimately having maximum control over your arousal levels, will guarantee you more satisfying sex – no questions asked. You’ll be able to enjoy every second to the fullest and able to optimize how your body receives the sensations.

Thus, some form of edging training is well worth your time.

A couple satisfied with sex